All animals–including social animals have feelings, and that is just to ascertain the fact that they are living. But the consistent thing that happens is the way feelings change. Yes, change is a constant thing, and we have come to agree that the universe itself is transient. So, we do not expect anything to be permanent.
So when we talk about feelings waning, it has both positive and negative facts. For example, if you were feeling pain and after some time it wanes or that feeling is replaced with a better feeling or the pain you were feeling diminishes; that’s a great thing. But when TWO people in any form of relationship who were having so many feelings of affection change, it becomes a negative thing.
There are a lot of reasons why feelings wane, and that is what we are talking about today. But let’s make you understand why waning feelings in a relationship is a negative sign.
Foremost, when feelings in relationships wane, just know that the interest level is no longer the same. You begin to see that the desire to communicate, cater to, and attend to is no longer as intense as before. At such points, it is either party that work on it or let the agreement slide.
Again, once you notice that your feeling or that of your partner in a relationship is waning, there might be something bothering them. At this point, communication is very crucial. All relationship experts will keep talking about COMMUNICATION in relationships because that’s the ONLY thing that can make or mar relationships.
So, aside from the lack of interest, communication, stress, or psychological imbalances in either of the partners, other things can make feelings wane. For that reason, let’s look at the opinions from the streets on why feelings wane.
For Master Monday, an undergraduate Student of ATBU Bauchi, he says feelings wane because “they are:
● They are like statements and statements are the state of the mind”.
He further stated that “feelings come in swiftly, if not acted upon, they move so others can come in”. For him, “the human mind controls feelings”, and since “the mind can never be empty”, feelings change at the slightest opportunity.
He concluded by saying that “your most dominant thought per time, determines your feeling. Many times it’s in your subconscious that the waning occurs.
As for Ms. Faith, an erudite researcher and scholar of the prestigious Benue State University, the feeling is not to love. It is just an attraction. So, when the things that made you develop feelings are no longer there, the feelings wane. She also said that when the person(s) we have feelings for begin to exhibit some characters we never expected, the feelings(attraction) begin to fade. So, since to her, the feeling is not to love, it is bound to wane at any time.
Sincerely, feelings are like mirages, so when you begin to see anything other than what you saw or thought you saw, your feelings are bound to change.
Therefore, this is a call to people in all forms of relationships to strive in all their doings to ensure that they are true to themselves. Under no circumstance should we allow society, religion, or trends to decide our identity? So that whoever has feelings for you will do that based on your true self.